Depending on where you are located geographically it is either spring or autumn and either way it signifies change. I for one tend to resist change, but seasons remind us of the beauty in change.. whether it’s the “shedding” kind or the “blooming” kind. This theme of turning new or the subtractive kind inspired me to reflect on a time of renewal and growth.

I’d like to share a personal story… a few years ago, I experienced a major setback in my personal life that left me feeling victimized and steeped in fear of the “what-if”. As I spiraled into the unfairness of it all… I self-sabotaged and struggled with all my relationships… primarily the one with myself.

But as time passed and (a few) seasons changed, I realized that the only thing worse than a plant that wilts is a plant that stays stagnant. So, I took a page out of Mother Nature’s book and decided to proverbially turn over a new leaf.

I pursued a radically new and paradigm-shifting program that not only allowed me to process unhealed parts of myself but also many opportunities to share that with others which now feed into my IKIGAI. Talk about growth! But I won’t lie.. Ouch! it did come with growing pains!

Another lesson from nature suggests that while some growth is additive, but when things don’t add up, then we need to subtract and simplify. These “pains” came in the form of loss – Letting go of some relationships, people, places, things, past memories, and behaviors.

As we explore what it means to turn over a new leaf, start fresh, and embrace change, I want you to know that if you’re a parent, you know that change can be especially challenging for kids.

Read on to learn some parenting tips on how to embrace change and thrive in new situations. Whether it’s leaving the playground, transitioning to starting a new school or trying a new activity, these tips will help you navigate the ups and downs of change with confidence.

I hope that by sharing this story, I have encouraged you to embrace vulnerability, change, and take risks in your own life.

Thank you for joining me on this journey of turning new, and I wish you a joyful and rejuvenating turn of the season (minus the allergies!).
Depending on where you are located geographically it is either spring or autumn and either way it signifies change. I for one tend to resist change, but seasons remind us of the beauty in change.. whether it’s the “shedding” kind or the “blooming” kind. This theme of turning new or the subtractive kind inspired me to reflect on a time of renewal and growth.

I’d like to share a personal story… a few years ago, I experienced a major setback in my personal life that left me feeling victimized and steeped in fear of the “what-if”. As I spiraled into the unfairness of it all… I self-sabotaged and struggled with all my relationships… primarily the one with myself.

But as time passed and (a few) seasons changed, I realized that the only thing worse than a plant that wilts is a plant that stays stagnant. So, I took a page out of Mother Nature’s book and decided to proverbially turn over a new leaf.

I pursued a radically new and paradigm-shifting program that not only allowed me to process unhealed parts of myself but also many opportunities to share that with others which now feed into my IKIGAI. Talk about growth! But I won’t lie.. Ouch! it did come with growing pains!

Another lesson from nature suggests that while some growth is additive, but when things don’t add up, then we need to subtract and simplify. These “pains” came in the form of loss – Letting go of some relationships, people, places, things, past memories, and behaviors.

As we explore what it means to turn over a new leaf, start fresh, and embrace change, I want you to know that if you’re a parent, you know that change can be especially challenging for kids.

Read on to learn some parenting tips on how to embrace change and thrive in new situations. Whether it’s leaving the playground, transitioning to starting a new school or trying a new activity, these tips will help you navigate the ups and downs of change with confidence.

I hope that by sharing this story, I have encouraged you to embrace vulnerability, change, and take risks in your own life.

Thank you for joining me on this journey of turning new, and I wish you a joyful and rejuvenating turn of the season (minus the allergies!).

Grateful to each one of you for taking the time to subscribe, read and share this within your community. My intention is to keep this as a 2-way communication, so stay in touch. (There are many ways at: www.dr.tanushkamelwani.com)

Accepting the As-is:

We parents and adults live in the past or the future, while our children live in the Present. This clash of time zones is what results in all dysfunctional behavior.

Can we move away from the fear of the future and guilt from the past to the acceptance of the “As-is” of the present moment? It is only then, that we can really CONNECT with our children and loved ones.

So, when change or transitions arrive, you don’t have to robotically resort to fear, anger, and helplessness…It is from this space of accepting the “As-is”, that we can make conscious and empowering choices.

‘Disrespect’ is one of the most common words that are used when people get in touch with me. Of course, there is no ubiquitous meaning to the word, and it looks different to each one of us. This entirely depends on the lens we are seeing it through…The cultural lens and the family lens. While our outer reactions to the said disrespectful behavior may differ based on our cultural and familial viewpoints, what is predictable is the inner reactivity.

Why? You may ask- and that’s because we “ABSORB” or “REFLECT” this disrespectful energy (first step). This invariably leads to us feeling hopeless or helpless (second step) and these feelings and emotions when not allowed to be ‘felt’… result in our outer reactivity in the 5 F’s! (third step)

What’s that? – Well, you Fight, Fix, Flee, Freeze, or Fawn.

If you want to break the cycle- the only thing you need to do with the incoming energy is to TRANSFORM, it.

How do you do that?- For starters, you become the anti-dote to the energy. When you have the emotional repertoire in your toolkit to understand that the loop can be broken at the trigger, the thoughts, feeling/emotions, or at the point of reactivity.

Putting it into Practice:

Think of the last time you went into outrage with your child / partner / friend / boss / colleague.

Now observe, where can I possibly break the cycle?
Can I break it into the first step, second step, or last step? It changes for every situation and for every person. Each person is different at a different time.

When we begin to break the cycle of reactivity, now we offer ourselves choices. Such as conscious boundaries, examining our boundaries, creating negotiation, creating win-win situations, and entering compassion, empathy, and attunement.

This is a powerful tool. Use it daily. Reflect on it deeply. Share your realizations with me.

Click here to learn – How to break the REACTIVITY CYCLE. This workshop will take you through the 4 steps of the reactivity cycle and how you can diagnose and understand yourself and BREAK the cycle!

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You have all made my life more fruitful. The kind messages I receive about how this work is changing your life truly help ground me and get me through my own personal struggles as I move forwards on the conscious parenting path.

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